Prayer in Real Life: Learning to Talk with God
“The best bit of advice I ever received about how to pray was this: keep it simple, keep it real, keep it up.”―Pete Greig, How to Pray: A Simple Guide for Normal People
Dear Parishioners:
When I asked for questions to be answered in the Pastor’s Column, I received the following:
How do we pray? As an altar boy in my youth, I would accompany the priest when he served mass at the house for the Carmelite nuns. I wondered to myself “do they spend the day saying the Our Father, Hail Mary etc. over and over?” Surely they do more than that. As an adult now I pray daily but sometimes have a hard time on what to say and what I’m praying for or about and usually end up saying an Our Father instead. Am I being selfish to pray “especially” for someone/thing as they are no more deserving as anyone else?
There is quite a bit here. Nuns, especially cloistered nuns do spend their days in prayer. The anchor of their prayer is Liturgy of the Hours, which is available to everyone. (The app iBreviary is an easy access to these prayers.) Admittedly, that’s not all they do, they have daily tasks to do, just like everyone else. They have the ability—I would say luxury—to spend more time than the average person in prayer. They also do private prayer, often praying for requested intentions. I imagine other than prescribed prayers, each nun prays as she finds meaningful. We do our best in prayer. Their life is theirs, unless you’re one of them, it is not your life. Most of us have more time on tasks (work, family, school, home) and less time for prayer. A parent with a couple of young children or a person with a full-time job may not have the ability to pray in the way the nuns do, and that’s ok. Still, we all have the ability to find some time for prayer each day, no one is that busy,
When you have trouble knowing what to say in prayer, just say what you can and know that God knows what we need and for what we should ask, even if we don’t. As St. Paul writes to the Romans:
In the same way, the Spirit too comes to the aid of our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we ought, but the Spirit itself intercedes with inexpressible groanings. (8:26)
It is not selfish to pray especially for some people, it is not that they are more deserving of God’s help, but they are more important to us. The “especially” prayer is asking for something for everyone but remembering the intentions important to us. I often say that sometimes we need to pray not so that God hears us, but that we hear ourselves. We need to know we are praying for those close to us because it expresses our relationship with them. Again, even if we pray wrongly, which is hard to do, (unless asking for evil on someone or asking God that my team wins—the outcome of a sporting event has little to do with the salvation of ourselves or others), God knows what we truly need.
The bottom line is: pray and let God sort it out!
Sincerely,
Rev. Charles F. Strebler
Pastor
